Friends and Circles of Friends

23 02 2011

I’ve noticed, finally and irrevocably: I am sorely lacking a true “circle of friends.” Some people may never have many friends, so I’m told. My personality profile suggests that I am one who makes few deep connections due to feeling a lack of intimacy with most, and I believe that’s true.

Nevertheless, I am prone to wonder: as adults, do people stop calling most of their friends, especially if they live outside of a certain radius? Is this due to laziness or a sense that their time is better invested elsewhere?

So I now ask you, directly: what is your experience with growing older and your circle of friends – has it shrunk, enlarged or remained the same?





2 responses

24 02 2011
Dr Schmoyer

Friends do what they do [and don’t do many things]; I have some “close” friends, but the rate of phone contact is small…email works better…I think there is also a lot to be said in favor of relating to close acquaintances in the same manner as one does “close friends.” Also, for many people family are part of the close friends circle…

13 03 2011

I think life is too busy in the adult world. As Americans we are overwhelmed, our kids are over-scheduled, and we are overly high tech. We have forgotten the gentle are of conversation, lack the time for visits, and rely on our tech devices to stay in touch but it isn’t the same as up close and personal. So people drift apart.
It is important if you want to have friends to make a point of staying in regular touch with those special people in your life, those who matter most to you. You may not see these special people often but when you do see them it is like almost no time has past and you can pick right up where you left off.

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